But the fucking is easier,” says Vox.Įasier, and sometimes a little mechanical. “And I feel like that might be the piece people need more than fucking. Many of us find it easy to ask a guy to fuck us, but it feels awkward to ask that same person to hold us for a couple of minutes afterward. Notice how uncomfortable it is for you to stay, and if you need aftercare, right? If you need to be touched and given affection after being fucked or whatever it is, to be vulnerable enough to ask that person: ‘Hey, it would feel really good for me if we could just cuddle for a minute? Will you do that with me?’ Even me saying it right now feels…” Los Angeles Tantra Massage Hollywood Bliss Massage Marina Del Rey Tantric Temples Sacred Temple Massage Lomi Lomi Massage Tantra Healing Arts Tantra Teachers Tantra Yoga Tantra Workshops Shamanic Tantra Shamanic Healing Love Coaching Life Coaching. “By aftercare I mean, once you cum, it’s not time to go. TantraFor Individuals (2 therapists) 580. “I can also have a really intimate experience with my partner which carries outside of the bedroom, right? So I think noticing where we can be a little more intimate with each other. I can allow myself to be intimate with that person in that container and then leave it there. “For example, I can have a very intimate experience with a stranger, with a client, with someone that I met online. When Vox talks of “containers”, he means within specific settings. To also look at intimacy within containers.” “And for some people that’s hot, but for many people, it’s not, so to answer your question, I think, what I would invite for gay men to look at intimacy in different ways.
Or they felt like they were just a fuck toy that was used. I hear from a lot of men that they have hookups and they spend all this time chasing the actual sex, and then once they’re there they can’t wait to leave. “And now I feel like there’s something else is bubbling up: a collective conscious even beyond gay men, bringing consciousness to sexuality.